Christmas Eve History

If you’ve been here a while, you may remember Mr. X’s Christmas Eve spectacular; and if you’re new here I shall give you a brief synopsis. Christmas Eve 2009 Mr. X turned me into the bitch I am now. He told me he had feelings for me and there was something there. And then less than an hour later he decided he “just couldn’t” and vanished.

I’m not going to lie, that fucked me up….badly and years down the line I still carry those scars but at the same time I’m very grateful. That gave me a lot of strength and that was never more evident than last night when Mr. Block sent me a message that was flat out wrong and very low.

From what I can gather he was out drinking and he sent me this message “Come on it’s time to fuck me or leave me alone xx”. Before Mr. X that message would have had me tears, but now that message just enraged me. On what planet is that an acceptable thing to say to anyone, let alone to say to someone on Christmas Eve?

Now I could be over reacting given the day of the year and it’s not so pleasant history but I don’t think I am. I also think, if that’s the game he’s going to play, he can go die a slow painful death. I’m after an adult relationship and he keeps proving himself to be a child. And I’m just not interested in that.

Anyways, it’s Christmas so that's enough of that; I’m going to go and spend time with people who love me for me and not just for my vagina. But before I do, I shall leave you with a question; on what planet is that message acceptable? Let me know your thoughts in the comment below and as always, stay and play safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch 

xoxoxo

Facebook Post

After two days of not hearing from the man I’m meant to be in some form of a relationship with I posted this image to my Facebook wall as a gentle hint. On day 3 while I was at work I spotted a Facebook notification on my phone. When I looked at it, I couldn’t control my mouth from yelling “You cock” a little stunned, my supervisor asked what was up. I explained that I hadn’t heard from Barney in 3 days and the fucker just liked my post. No call, no email, no text just liked the fucking post. Needless to say I wasn’t in the slightest bit impressed. My supervisor on the other hand couldn’t stop laughing and repeatedly called him “fucking legendary”. My supervisor is an idiot.

I didn’t hear from Barney all day 4, day 5 I messaged him saying good morning, asking how his weekend was, being a Monday he messaged me back. It didn’t take him long to ask about the post. Apparently he felt it was a cheap shot because he feels guilty enough that he doesn’t have the time to message me or hang out as much as he’d like.

Forgetting the fact he clearly had the time to be on Facebook and like the post which doesn’t take any longer then typing and sending “good night”, how am I am the bad guy in this? It’s not like the good night thing is news to him, we’ve had this conversation… a lot. It shouldn’t really come as a surprise at this point. 

We managed to talk it out and he understands where I was coming from but the whole thing has left a bit of a nasty taste in my mouth. But I will leave the question with you, was I in the wrong? Let me know your thoughts in the comment box below and as always stay and play safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch

xoxoxo

Texting Do's and Don'ts

I received an email from someone asking me about texting etiquette. Oddly enough it’s something I hadn’t given much thought to so I decided to do a little research on the matter. It didn’t take long for me to regret that decision. Everybody and their mother seem to have their opinion on the matter and some of those opinions are simply bat-shit crazy.

So I’ve decide to save you the trouble of wading through the guano and make a list of the 10 do’s and don’ts that actually make sense and are routed in reality. Not as easy as it may sound there are a lot of whack-jobs out there.

So let’s get started:

Don’t Over Abbreviate- Better yet don’t abbreviate at all! First of all it’s annoying and second it makes you sound uneducated. Why anybody would wilfully make themselves sound like an idiot is beyond me.

Don’t Guess- When someone sends you a cryptic message that you don’t fully understand don’t guess at its meaning. This leads to misunderstandings and unneeded arguments. Just simply ask what the other person means or wait until you see them in person. Sounds so simple I know.

Don’t Operate a Phone Angry- This includes texting, nagging and snapping back at someone, just step away from the phone. Also included in this rules; do not try to resolve any conflicts via text. It’s very hard to judge tone in a text message which makes conflict resolution nearly impossible and more fighting almost inevitable. 

Don’t Reveal Anything Embarrassing- This includes operating a phone under the influence, and sending picture messages. There are just something’s it’s best not to have a written recorded of. Embarrassing stories and drunken conversations are high up that list, just don’t do it.

Don’t Send Non-Committal Messages- Messages like “we should go for a drink sometime” or “we should catch up” everyone can see through those hollow messages, so why bother? Not to mention they’re really irritating.

Do Text Before a Date- Especially before a first date, 86% of women asked said a text before a date puts them more at easy. Plus it’s just the polite thing to do. I know if I don’t get a text before a date I starting wondering whether I’m going to get stood up.

Do Reply ASPA- I read a few articles that suggest making a guy wait awhile before replying and ok I can see making him wait a little, 20 minutes/ half hour tops but beware most people will assume their being ignored if they don’t get a reply within an hour. So be careful of playing games.

Do Be a Positive Texter- Send your other half sweet nothings and maybe some harmless flirting and a little teasing, just try to keep it PG-13.  Also try to send praise and encouragement; if you know your other half has a big meeting at work or an exam send them a little love.

Do Send Late Night Messages – But use some common sense when doing so. If you know they have an early meeting, don’t send a message after 10pm. Personally I love getting good night messages but I hate getting woken up by them so use your brain and be considerate when sending messages.

Don’t Text All Day- There were a few websites that said not to text every day. I think that’s just crazy. Texting is the world we live in so texting on a daily bases is perfectly fine. Don’t however text all day, every day. That’s a bit much and makes you come off pathetic and needy. And as we all know nobody wants to date pathetic and needy.

So those are the 10 do’s and don’ts I managed to come up with that seemed to make some form of sense. Personally I think if you have any common sense at all you shouldn’t need these rules but I’ve learned over the years that common sense isn’t all that common so I guess a little guidance never hurt anyone.

I guess all that’s left is for me to ask are there any do’s and don’ts I missed and have you ever dated anyone who has broken these rules? I want to hear your stories in the comment box below. As always my dears stay safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch

xoxoxo

Nice Weakness

I'm starting to wonder if I've dealt with so many asshole men that I've lost my ability to deal with sweet guys.

It sounds crazy but over the years and many boyfriends I've become a pro at dealing with jerk man. I've become so good at it normally I can even determine the intent of the jackassness.

Guys act like assholes for many reasons, some complex and some because they are assholes. It takes a lot of experience to work out the cause and more importantly whether it's worth dealing with are not. The answer is normally not.

All that jerkiness I can deal with without batting an eyelash, hell I'm almost good at it but I've recently discovered the not so good at dealing with non-jackass men. My quick wittedness and ability to think on my feet is powerless against them.

Jon sent me a message last night saying “you're a girl that every guy should treasure J”. What am I meant to do with that? There is no quick-witted comeback for that. My only defence is to blush and bury my face. I'm just not used to that.

Normally when a guy says those sorts of things, they do it when they think they have a shot of getting in my pants. I can see through that BS and reply accordingly. I'm really not used to a guy saying those things because he means them.

It takes a lot shake me, I work customer service for many years, you name it I've heard it, and it doesn't faze me, but apparently my weakness is niceness. I just don't know what to do with it. I’m The Honest Bitch not The Honest Sweetheart.

Am I alone in this? Do you find it easier or more comfortable to deal with assholes? Or am I just weird?

As always stay and play safe, Love,

The Honest Bitch

xoxoxoxo

Predictable Pig

In my last blog I was telling you about the predictable response to one of my Facebook statuses and there being more to the story, so here it is.

After sending me a bunch of Facebook messages he asked if he could text me. I said ok. He's known me for years and already had my number so it's not like I could stop him if I wanted to. Plus I wanted to see if I could get him to admit he had a girlfriend.

So he started sending me text messages. They started off harmless enough asking about how I was and talking about hockey, then it turned a little flirty. I didn't have a problem with a little harmless flirting.

Then it took a turn crossing that line of things you can't say or text when you're in a relationship. He was aiming for sexting and I wasn't playing that game. I have dealt with my fair share of crazy girlfriends, and I'm not looking to add another one to that list.

He eventually moved back to the harmless side of the line and we said good night and that was that… or so I thought.

For the next few days he would send me messages like “good morning, have a good day :-) x” and “Good morning sexy xx”. This struck me as strange...really strange.

I've dealt with more than my fair share of slimy guys and normally they cover their asses and don't leave a text trail for their girlfriend to find. Side note: beware of guys, who don't have any messages on their phones, they're normally trouble.

This left me wondering if he and his girlfriend broke up or if something happened because that's just not normal behaviour. Plus, part of me really didn't want to believe he was a jerk. He's the first fellow hockey fan I met here, and he comes off as such a sweet guy.

So I went into detective mode and searched his Facebook wall for answers. I didn't find any recent messages from the girlfriend however her display picture was a picture of both of them together but it crossed my mind that she may not have changed it yet, so I continued looking.  Then I saw a message with a name that jumped out at me, it wasn't his girlfriend's name but it was the same surname.

It turned out to be the girlfriend’s mother, and she was joking with him the morning after he messaged me. I can’t be sure but I don't think you'd joke with your daughter's ex-boyfriend on a public Facebook wall if they had just broken up.

So it has left me to conclude that apparently nice guy or not, he is a creep and depending on your definition of cheating, a cheater too.

I guess that only leaves two questions, is sexting classifed as cheating? And does it take two to sext?

Stay safe guys, Love,

The Honest Bitch
xoxo