Saturday 27 November 2010

12 Months On

I’m sat here on my bed reflecting on the past year. For you people that have been reading my blogs for a while in there various locations will remember last December wasn’t a great month for me. It’s kind of nice to see sit here realize how much I’ve grown as a person in the past 12 months.

I’m almost thankful for the trauma I received last year; I wouldn’t be nearly as strong if it wasn’t for him. I’m not the same person I was back then. My views have changed, my attitude is different and my opinions of people are very different.

I’m sure all the changes haven’t been for the best, I’m more dismissive towards guys then every before. I actually used the line “I wouldn’t go out with you unless I ran out of material for my blog”. I’m not sure a year ago I would have been the mean towards a stranger. Personally I blame it on “strange danger” PSA’s growing up.

I don’t see any of my changes as a bad thing. I’m smarter when it comes to men, I’m stronger in the way I handle them and I’m normally able to weed out the freaks before the first date. I’m also a lot pickier and less flexible in changing my requirements. If you don’t tick all the boxes, I’m not dating you. It’s as simple as that.

It was joked that last December I was weakened, the same can’t be said this year. I’m back to being a strong willed Bitch and you know what? I love it! It’s nice having the power back. I guess the song is right; it’s never to late too start all over again.

I’m off to watch some HNIC. Fingers crossed the Leafs can win this round of the battle of Ontario.

Go Leafs Go

The Honest Bitch


Tuesday 23 November 2010

Do we villainize our ex’s or are they just as bad as we remember?

There is this guy who isn’t even a true ex of mine and if I close my eyes and picture him, I see his face with a devil’s goatee, horns on his head; I see the point of his tail behind his head and his pitchfork. In my mind this guy is the devil himself, there is no one more evil.

Now that some time has passed and I’m able to speak to him again without the urge to strangle him. I’m starting to notice some qualities I don’t remember him having. He’s really funny. What kind of devil is funny? He’s helpful. I know I haven’t been to church in a while but I’m sure helpful isn’t how the bible describes the devil. Could I have been wrong?

No. Sorry Mr. Devil I know I’m not wrong. The events that caused me to believe he was the devil are still factual. The question is do we villainize our ex’s or are they just as bad as we remember?

At some point people that have hurt us go from being real people in our minds, to being almost like comic book characters. We no longer see them as a human being with feelings. We see them as a super villain out to destroy our world.

So I guess we do villainize our ex’s but I also think they’re just as bad as we remember. After all the things they did are real. They really did hurt us; they really got us to the point where we had to turn them into monsters in our minds to move on. The thing we may have lost sight of is that they are still human. Or maybe we just blocked out that fact.

Don’t get me wrong I’m not suggesting we forgive the evil assholes that have hurt over the years, in my mind they deserve to be villainize. I’m just suggesting they may still be human after all.

Anyways my loves, I’m heading off for the night. Stay out of trouble

Love Always

The Honest Bitch


Thursday 18 November 2010


It never seizes to amaze me how clueless men really are. I’m the first to admit we don’t always speak the same language but when you spend enough time around a foreign language you start to pick up the basics. Or at least that how it’s supposed to work.

I’m not sure if guys are just ignorant or just dumb but they don’t seem to understand that we have different beliefs and words have different meanings on plant women. Sentences like “its ok” can have 60 different meanings. Men on the other hand haven’t evolved into such complex beings. Everything they say and do only has one meaning....Most of the time.

I’d like to think men should be able to understand me. I’m not a normal female, I can talk sports, I’m not really relationship friendly and I’m a fan of fuck friends, but guys don’t seem to under me either. I don’t mince my words, I say what I mean and guys are just as clueless. This leads me to believe being clueless is in their DNA.

Staying on the clueless theme I recently received a message from a guy I use to be “friendly” with at stupid o clock in the morning. It started off all friendly “how are you?” and it quickly turned to filth. Which itself isn’t a problem however, I have a problem guys that wrap their horniness up in pleasantries.

Why can’t guys just be truthful about their intentions? There is nothing more off putting to me then a guy who goes from sweet and innocent to horn dog in the blink on an eye. I feel like its false advertising. If you’re only looking for a fuck be honest about it. You’ll be surprise how far it’ll get you. Ok the distance may be because you were kicked but we’ll respect you more. Or at least hate you less.

Anyways I’m off dolls, stay safe

Love Always

The Honest Bitch


Saturday 13 November 2010

False Hope

Hey Guys,

“No man is worth your tears, but the one that is, won't make you cry”
That is my favourite quote. It’s a load of bullshit but it just one of those lies you have to tell yourself to get though the day.

Nobody being worth your tear is very true. No one should have the right to make you feel bad about yourself. The lie in this quote is that the man that you should cry over won’t make you cry. Did the creator of that quote ever meet a guy? Guy’s are always going to make girls cry. We are just wired differently.
Can you imagine if every time a guy made a girl cry they broke up? The whole world would be single. I don’t think there is any couple on the earth that can say their other half hasn’t made them cry.

False Hope. False hope is something that all chick flicks have built in to them. It’s that thought that everything can be just like a fairy tale and you can live happily ever after. I think false hope is something that all women have to lie to themselves about. If we didn’t we’d never date again. Most of us know that there is no knight on a white horse but the quest to find him is the only reason that male species is still around. If women didn’t think “The One” was out there we would have killed off all men by now.

Can’t you feel the negativity in the air? Never let it be said I’m bitter, I’m just someone that has learned one too many lessons the hard way.

Before I go there are a few other things I wanted to update you on.

First of all, my mother’s operation on Tuesday went very well. They don’t think it’s cancerous, so that’s a load off my mind. Parents really know how to stress you out don’t they?

Secondly I’ve started a Facebook page, just search for “The Honest Bitch”. I’m not really sure how it’s going fit into the stuff I already do but right now I’m using it to chat with you, ask my questions of the day and just float ideas on.

Have a wonderful Saturday night and I’ll speak to you soon.


The Honest Bitch


Sunday 7 November 2010

Is there something bewteen the lines?

Hey Guys,

I hope everyone’s hangovers aren’t too bad on this freezing cold Sunday morning. I have been doing a little thinking on why ghosts pop up.

My answer to that question for years has been they do it to fuck with a girl's head. A male friend said that guys do it because they’re regretting their choices. I couldn’t help but roll my eyes at that. On what planet do guys care if they’ve hurt a girl or regret passing someone over?

But that conversation has left me wondering is it possible that there is more to a man than what on the surface?

For year’s girl all over the world have been told “Don’t read into anything a guy says, what they say is what they mean.” Has the female race be lied to for all this year? Could there actually be something written in between the lines?

Personally I find this hard to believe, I have a lot of guys friends and they’re pretty straight forward to understand. If something is wrong they’ll tell you, they don’t do the female thing and say everything is fine. Hell I had a guys tell me loved me and they block me and disappear (no subtitles needed). It blows my mind to think that guys may have something deeper to them.

If guys have something deeper to them I wonder what those classic male lines really mean. “I’m not ready for a relationship”, could that be code for I don’t want to get hurt again? The whole idea is enough to drive a girl crazy. Personally I hope that it’s all bullshit, I’m perfectly happy thinking men aren’t capable of higher brain thoughts. They’re black and white and that’s the why I like it.

Anyways my dears I’m off to bed. Sweet dreams everyone

The Honest Bitch


Thursday 4 November 2010

My 2 Cents

Good Evening,

Well I guess I should start by saying everything went well Tuesday. My new doctor was actually very good and had me in and out very quickly. He did a great job of limiting my pain. I’m a little sore but not nearly as bad as my previous ones. All that is left is my mom’s operation Tuesday then its clear sailing.

Something was hinted at the other day and I would like to throw my 2 cents in. I’m currently taking a hiatus from dating. This decision is not because of a jackass male hurting my feelings. It is however because of the lessons I learned for said jackass male. I’m a little tougher on guys now, I screen them a lot better and if they have any of the same characteristics of Mr. Jackass I drop them like a bad habit. I’m not some crushed little girl. I’m just smarter then I was. And I’m thankful for that.

In other news I’m ignoring my phone, another ghost form guys past has popped. Clinton is this ghost’s name. I’m really not into making the same mistake more than once. Hell I don’t like making them once.

Anyways my dears I’m heading off to bed. Stay out of trouble.

Love you

The Honest Bitch