I received an email from someone asking me about texting etiquette. Oddly enough it’s something I hadn’t given much thought to so I decided to do a little research on the matter. It didn’t take long for me to regret that decision. Everybody and their mother seem to have their opinion on the matter and some of those opinions are simply bat-shit crazy.
So I’ve decide to save you the trouble of wading through the guano and make a list of the 10 do’s and don’ts that actually make sense and are routed in reality. Not as easy as it may sound there are a lot of whack-jobs out there.
So let’s get started:
Don’t Over Abbreviate- Better yet don’t abbreviate at all! First of all it’s annoying and second it makes you sound uneducated. Why anybody would wilfully make themselves sound like an idiot is beyond me.
Don’t Guess- When someone sends you a cryptic message that you don’t fully understand don’t guess at its meaning. This leads to misunderstandings and unneeded arguments. Just simply ask what the other person means or wait until you see them in person. Sounds so simple I know.
Don’t Operate a Phone Angry- This includes texting, nagging and snapping back at someone, just step away from the phone. Also included in this rules; do not try to resolve any conflicts via text. It’s very hard to judge tone in a text message which makes conflict resolution nearly impossible and more fighting almost inevitable.
Don’t Reveal Anything Embarrassing- This includes operating a phone under the influence, and sending picture messages. There are just something’s it’s best not to have a written recorded of. Embarrassing stories and drunken conversations are high up that list, just don’t do it.
Don’t Send Non-Committal Messages- Messages like “we should go for a drink sometime” or “we should catch up” everyone can see through those hollow messages, so why bother? Not to mention they’re really irritating.
Do Text Before a Date- Especially before a first date, 86% of women asked said a text before a date puts them more at easy. Plus it’s just the polite thing to do. I know if I don’t get a text before a date I starting wondering whether I’m going to get stood up.
Do Reply ASPA- I read a few articles that suggest making a guy wait awhile before replying and ok I can see making him wait a little, 20 minutes/ half hour tops but beware most people will assume their being ignored if they don’t get a reply within an hour. So be careful of playing games.
Do Be a Positive Texter- Send your other half sweet nothings and maybe some harmless flirting and a little teasing, just try to keep it PG-13. Also try to send praise and encouragement; if you know your other half has a big meeting at work or an exam send them a little love.
Do Send Late Night Messages – But use some common sense when doing so. If you know they have an early meeting, don’t send a message after 10pm. Personally I love getting good night messages but I hate getting woken up by them so use your brain and be considerate when sending messages.
Don’t Text All Day- There were a few websites that said not to text every day. I think that’s just crazy. Texting is the world we live in so texting on a daily bases is perfectly fine. Don’t however text all day, every day. That’s a bit much and makes you come off pathetic and needy. And as we all know nobody wants to date pathetic and needy.
So those are the 10 do’s and don’ts I managed to come up with that seemed to make some form of sense. Personally I think if you have any common sense at all you shouldn’t need these rules but I’ve learned over the years that common sense isn’t all that common so I guess a little guidance never hurt anyone.
I guess all that’s left is for me to ask are there any do’s and don’ts I missed and have you ever dated anyone who has broken these rules? I want to hear your stories in the comment box below. As always my dears stay safe.
The Honest Bitch