NTB Update

Since NTB's guest post a couple weeks ago you’ve been asking for an update on him and his love interest. I spoke to him last week and he’s given me the ok to fill you guys in on what’s been happening. He’d also like me to thank you guys for your support and comments, they really helped him.

He spoke her not along after he wrote the blog and that went.....well it could have gone better. She tossed out some words, like clingy and too old. That caused me to roll my eyes, because there is only 3 years between them. He also mentioned to me he thinks she may be crushing on someone else.

After that conversation he rightfully decided to her some space and let things cool off before finding out where he truly stands with her.

He went to see her at work a couple days ago; he only managed to have a partial conversation with her because she wanted him to leave before her "friend" came back. From what he said there were some good signs though. She gave him a massive hug and seemed really happy to see him.

His plan was to say sorry for coming across clingy and acting like they were in a relationship she didn’t want. I’m not too sure how much of that conversation he actually manage to have with her though.

The night he went to talk to her I waited up to make sure he was ok. He’s a good friend and plus you guys would kill me if I didn’t. He said something about a ring pointing the wrong way so she’s off the market. Which even now, sitting here typing this sounds crazy.

He’s decided to take some of your advice and back off and give her space. If she has feeling for him, which she does, hopefully she’ll come to him. My fingers are crossed for him, and not just because it would shut you guys up about us getting together. He deserves to be in a happy relationship.

In the meantime his eye is on a customer from work. I don’t know much about her but from what he’s said she’s a pretty girl with a gorgeous smile. I love his back bounciness and the fact most of us would be a little bitter after the summer he had but instead he’s just happy if she’s happy. We could all learn something from him.

His movie like romance may not be my cup of tea but I’m sure this knight in shining armour will find his princess. He’s just too good to remain single for long.

Love you guys,

The Honest Bitch

xoxoxoxo

Dating Horror Story

I was looking back at some of the reasons I decided to take a break from dating and I just randomly started laughing at something that was so horrific at the time but is kind of funny now. I thought you guys might get a kick out of the story.

It was about 3 years ago I think. I meet a guy online and we started chatting. After a few months of chatting and texting we decided to meet up. We got along great and went out 5 or 6 more time. Nothing more than just a good night kiss ever happened between us. Which I thought was odd but didn’t read much into it.

About 3 days after our last date, I was sat on my bed checking my Facebook and I noticed this guy updated his relationship status. As you do when a guy you’re dating updates his relationship status I checked it out.

It had him as “in a relationship” with some dude so I figured it was guys fucking around and didn’t think anymore of it.

....until about 5 minutes later when I saw he uploaded some pictures.

These picture were of this guy full on making out with the guy he changed to “in a relationship” with.

I was in shock. I just sat there on my bed not moving, with my mouth wide open. I don’t even remember blinking. I just sat there like a statue for a good 5 – 10 minutes. When I finally did move, I didn’t break eye contract with the screen. I just moved my right hand to pick up my phone and dialled my best friend at the time.

I remember the conversation like it was yesterday. It went something like this.

Me- “hmmmmm, hi.......do you remember that guy I was seeing?”

K – “Yeah, what’s wrong”

Me “hmmm, hmmm"

K –“You’re not pregnant are you?”

Me – “God no”

K – “Then?”

Me – “Facebook”

K- “I need more”

Me- “He changed his status”

K - “To?”

Me - “Fucking some dude”

K – “What!?”

Me - “He’s in a relationship with a guy”

K – “He’s joking”

Me – “No, no, no, there are pictures”

K – “Pictures?”

Me – “Yeah..... Crystal clear, colour photos”

K – “Oh”

Me - “Yeah”

K – “I’ll be right over”

When she got here I was still sat glaring at my netbook. She closed it and looked at me. And we both started to laugh because what else can you do. She then asked to see the pictures, which lead to the most horrified look on her face I've ever seen, It was so funny, my sides hurt thinking about it. That girl is far too innocent.

We then went out the pub for a drink and then......I don’t really remember much. Oh, I lie, I do remember getting a beer for free because we told the bartender I turned a guy gay.

I never did confront the guy because I don’t think the words for conversation exist. That’s why Hallmark doesn’t make greeting card for it. So once I was over the shock, I just laughed it off. I figure when they make the movie of my life that scene would keep people talking and make me more money.

Sometimes in life you just got to laugh....even if it’s because you turned a guy gay. How many people can say that eh? Lol

Stay safe guys,

Love you,

The Honest Bitch
xoxoxoxo

Turnabout Is Fair Play?

I was planning to write a blog about being fucked off with people not being there for me when I go out of my way to be there for them. I was going to write about me quitting being a friend, and invoke the playgroup law of turnabout is fair play.

Oddly enough I was reading some of my old blogs and I was reminded of something Neal inspired me to write about seeing the good in things. Despite the fact I’m not happy with him right now I’ll give credit where credit is due and he’s a smart guy, and that’s a great lookout to have.

This has left me thinking that maybe quitting being a friend isn’t the right way to handle things. As much as I want to tell people to fuck off, people being a crappy friend isn’t an excuse for me to be a bad friend as well. I should just take the high road. Karma will get them for me.

I would have been within my rights to declare “turnabout’s fair play” and be a complete bitch to everyone but why should I sink to their level? I’m going to take the high road and just play nice then when karma kicks their ass, I’ll take satisfaction in that. There is nothing like revenge without getting hands dirty.

I just want thank my readers for being better friends then most of my real ones, you guys are amazing. I have to head off so as always, stay safe.

Love

The Honest Bitch

xoxoxoxo

Crying and Learning

For me crying is kind of like shaking an Etch- A-sketch, it’s an emotional slat cleaner. Whether I’m mad, sad or hurt once I cry I’m able to drop it and move on. So I’ll admit I cry a far bit, but only about my issues. I’m not someone who cries and funerals or weddings, I rarely cry at movies or TV so imagine my surprise when I my eyes watered and I started to cry over a friends situation.

He was talking to me about how he told a girl he liked her. He knew she was in a relationship so he knew nothing would happen but he wanted her to know how he felt. He went on to tell me about how he only wanted her to be happy and how even if they were just friends she still made him happy and smile so either way he’s a winner.

I think he’s a winner because of his attitude. He just sees the positive, he’s strength and pose just amazes me. He sees the girl he loves daily and he’s strong enough to put his feelings to one side and just care about her happiness and will being. That’s amazing.

I remember how I felt dealing with the Mr. X drama and despite the fact I wanted the best for him, it still really hurt and to be honest it changed the way I deal with guys. I’ve been single longer than I’ve ever have been and that because I can’t put myself in the position to be hurt again. I’m not strong enough to do what he’s done and the fact anyone could do that is inspiring.

He came out with “sometimes you have to be thankful for what you have and not what you want.” I think those are some words to remember. You can’t have everything you want and you should just make the most of what you do have. That boy is wise beyond his years.

I’ve talked a lot about it this year, turning negatives into positives and this man seems to embody that lesson. Personally I’m just happy to take the opportunity to learn from someone else’s experience and find new ways of looking at things.

I’m sure with an outlook like his he’ll find someone who will treat him the way he treats people. He’s a busy man so maybe it’s all just a blessing for him so can focus on what he needs to do now. But I’m sure he’ll find someone fantastic.

As for me I’m sticking with single for a while longer. Although if the price of batteries keep going up I may change my mind lol

As always stay safe and try and treat people how you’d like to be treated.

Love Always

The Honest Bitch
xoxoxoxo

Renewing My Faith In Men

I think I’ve had my faith in men restored. Anyone who has read any of my blogs will know my track record in men is poor to say the least. Because of that I have a low opinion of men. I thought all men will there same. They were fuckwits, who only cared about themselves.

I was wrong. I had a conversation with a friend earlier and he was telling me about a girl he liked. As he was telling her how he felt, he found out she was dating one of his good friends. Instead of being mad or bitter he seems to have taken it in his stride. He said it sucks, but he’s rather her be happy (all together.... awwww). Who knew guys like the existed outside of chick flicks. I hope things work out for him. He deserves someone nice. He’s a good guy and we all knew there aren’t many of them left in the world.

Just hearing a guy thinking about more than his penis and actually care about someone besides himself warmed my heart. Maybe not all men are evil. It’s nice to have a little hope. However the guy is Canadian so maybe my theory on UK men is right.

I’m off guys, as always stay safe

Love Always

The Honest Bitch
xoxoxo