A few nights ago the
girls and I got together for a gossip session and during our chat they decided
it was time for me to start dating again and I actually agree with them for a
change. I’ve been single for a record amount of time and I’m ready to start
looking again.
However we didn’t
agree on everything. We were split on whether or not I should tell prospective
boyfriends I’m a blogger or not.
Obviously If I found
myself in a serious relationship I would tell him. That’s not the question. Everyone
I blog about regularly knows; Evil Monkey, NTB, Mr. X they all know and even
read my blog.
The question is at what point do I have to tell them?
If I wait too long to tell someone it sets a bad tone for the
relationship. It comes off like I wasn’t being forthcoming. To combat that
problem some of the girl suggested I tell the guy from the start I’m a blogger
but don’t give him my URL. I’m not really sure that makes it any better. That’s
still not being very forthcoming.
One of the girls said it’s best not to say anything at all. And I see
where she’s coming from but if a guy comes across it on his own, things are
going to get messy fast. So I’m not sure how smart that idea is.
The rest of the girls said I should just tell any guy I meet straight up
from the start. That has one big flaw in my book. Can you really get to know
someone if they’re always in the back of their mind, wondering what you’re
going to write about them? I honestly don’t know if that’s possible.
People worry about their image and if they know you’re likely to post
something, good or bad, be it now or 5 years down the line, they may not be so willing
to let their walls down and show the real them.
Because I write a mix of current life and past relationships it’s hard
for anyone to know what may find its way into my blog and when. I use this method because I like to leave a gap between a breakup and me insulting them. I
find the longer I wait the less they care what I write. But I could see that
being a problem for a new boyfriend. Nobody likes hearing about their girlfriend’s
exes and then you have the problem that if I don’t write about him, he's wondering
if he’s not special enough to be written about.
It’s a strange position to be in and the whole thing hurts my head. So what
do you guys think? Should I tell a prospective boyfriend I’m blogger and if so
when? Let me know in the comment box below.
As always my dears stay safe, Love,
The Honest Bitch
xoxoxo