Last night I was in a
bit of a playful mood so when I noticed Mr. X had posted an uncharacteristic status
I couldn’t help but give him a hard time about it. After a few exchanges in
which he didn’t bite back like normal he basically said being in love has
changed him. My first reaction was “awwww did the Grinch’s heart grow 3 sizes.
You know people die from enlarged hearts every day.” What can I say? Being a
bitch and sarcasm kind of go hand in hand.
My next reaction was
one of repulsion. I fell in love with his quick-witted, sarcastic, sharp tongue
humour. Him turning into a sensitive shell of his former self is (lets go with)
unappealing. Whoever he’s dating can have him; I like my men a little less
close to metro sexual line.
My exchange with my
former kryptonite got me thinking about change and whether changing in a
relationship is a positive or negative thing, a sign of growth or maybe one of insecurity.
We’ve all been there, dating someone, normally
someone out of our league, and all of a sudden you’re pretending to like music
you’ve always hated just because “it’s his favourite”, watching war films with
more blood then acting. We’ve all done it at some point. Dating someone out of
our league changing ours selves in an attempt to prevent him from figuring out you’re out of his league.
That’s insecurity for
you and it’s definitely not a positive thing.
On the other hand there
are relationships that change you, admittedly all mine have been for the worse.
But I hear it works the other way too. Relationships that make you want to be a
better you. Unlike mine which make me want to become serial killer but I’m sure
that’s just me.
Becoming a better
person isn’t a bad thing, it’s actually very positive but a fixer upper man isn’t.
That’s what I wonder
about how many people actually change within themselves and how many are
moulded in a fixer upper project?
When you get in a
relationship you’re meant to love the person for who they are and not what you can
change them into. Plus you can’t really change anyone; fixer upper changes are
most always temporary. They relapse and you’re left frustrated and disappointment,
trust me on that one.
This is one of those
blogs where I just don’t have an answer or even a clue for that matter. So I
guess I’ll leave it in your capable hands. Is changing in a relationship and
good or bad thing and why?
As always my dears
stay safe and have a great weekend.
Love,
The Honest Bitch
xoxoxo
