Let's Be Positive

Like I said in my last post, I’ve been tasked with the goal of being more positive this year and in an attempt to make a little headway with this goal I’ve been doing some research.

Let me start by saying there is a lot of utter bullshit out there on the matter. I don’t know whose writing this shit, but they clearly never spent one minute in the real world. “Eliminate all negativity from your life” …. Ok, so I’ll quit my job and never leave the house again. Let’s be honest, most the advice on the matter is highly unrealistic and impractical and because it’s unrealistic and impractical it’s never going to work.

That said, I did manage to find few none crackpot ideas that I’m willing to try.

The most interesting being the idea of “Two Steps Forward”.  The idea is when you find yourself judging others, or focusing the negative, or complaining; you counter it with 2 positive thoughts or gratitudes.

So for example; when I find myself thinking my day shift are a bunch of brain dead wankers. I can counter that with, I’m grateful I have a job and I’m surrounded by lovely, hardworking, helpful individuals on nights.

There was also the controlled breathing technique I’ve been meaning to try for about 28 years. It’s said those who can control their breathing can control their life, I kind of think this is hokum, but I’m willing to give it a try.

The third and final thing technique I’m going to try is setting attainable goals. I’m not sure this one is going to work for me. I’m not very goal orientated, I’m more of a fear of failure orientated person, but I will try setting a small goal every day and seeing what effect it has on me.

I’m probably not going to try and implement all these at once, but over the next few months I will give each and every one of these a fair shot and add and subtract as necessary. I’ve heard small changes are more likely to stick anyways, so we’ll see.

And if none of this works I shall take a few more acting classes and play a character during working hours. It’s always good to have a plan B right?

Anyways, you lovely people I’m going to go and get some sleep, but before I do I have this question for you; what do you do to be less negative?  Let me know your thoughts in the comments below. And, as always, stay and play safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch 

xoxo

New Year, New Plan

Happy New Year you gorgeous people. How the hell have you been?

I’ll be honest, I took a longer break than I originally planned. I planned to take December off and revamp things here for 2016. However, I kind of got sick and busy in November and my hiatus grew a little…. Ok, a lot. Hopefully with the changes I have planned for this year, that won’t happen again.

 

The first and biggest change being I'm going from 8 posts a month, to one post a week. The thought behind that being it’ll free me up to do more collaborative work and have more fun with my writing again. I’m aiming to have a new post up every Friday, however, as long as there’s one up a week I’ll be happy.

The other change being I’m not planning on dating in 2016. I want to spend the year getting my ducks in a row, working on myself and focusing mainly on my career, both writing and transport. I want all that to be solid before I introduce any possible source of drama into my life.

On the working on myself side of things, I’ve been tasked with the mission of being more positive. Which is hard for me. I’m not negative like my boss seems to think. I’m just sarcastic, and dry humored. Which is fantastic for my writing, improv, and the stand-up I’m starting to tinker in, but apparently puts character doubts in my boss’s head that will hold me back from promotion. So, I need to work on it or at least work on hiding the real me while I’m working. 

Anyways, you sexy beasts, I’m going to go, but before I do I have this question for you; what is your New Year’s resolution? Let me know in the comments below. And as always, stay and play safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch 

xoxo

Quick Update

I’m so frustrated this post is late, I’ve been on top of my game all month, running about 2 weeks ahead and then last week happened, which I did account for. However, nobody thinks their hangover will last 4 days and that caught me out.

Had this week been a normal week all would have been fine but it’s not. Since I broke up from work Tuesday I’ve jumped straight into rehearsals. I took this role on at the last minute as a favor, so I’ve had 2 months’ worth of work to cram into 4 and half days. I’ve barely had time to pee let alone write.

But I wanted to jump on here and post something even if it’s a crappy update post. That said, I have to go and get ready for a dress rehearsal, the play is tomorrow. Wish me luck…. I may need it. I’m struggling with a few lines…..script work has never been my thing.

Love you guys, and since it's Halloween, the sluttest of all the holidays, make sure you play safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch 

xoxo

Dating Again?

I’m in the process of giving internet dating another go, although I’m not entirely sure why. Although I’m ready to date, I don’t really want to.

Larry is the perfect example of this, I spend a maximum of 48 hours a week with him, most of which I have 0 interaction with him. Yet 90% of the time I want to kill him. I’m not sure if it’s because there’s a thin line between love and hate and he tap danced across that line. I’m sure if it’s because he’s a pompous prick with an attitude problem. I’m not sure if it’s because I’m in the process of whitening my teeth and my mouth hurts not 90% of the time, but whatever the reason I can’t put up with him and I’m paid to, so what hope does the average guy have.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to be alone forever, but I also don’t want anyone to needlessly complicate my life. I’m very content in my drama free bubble right now and the idea of dating alone sounds like a lot of work and a complete nightmare.

I’m sure at some point someone will come along and change my mind, but right now, no. But I’m open to the idea so I continue to look online and who knows what will happen.

Anyways, I am going to go and get some sleep because my evil co-workers have decided to give me yet another bug to try and fight off. But, before I go I have this question for you, are relationships worth it? Let me know in the comment box below. And as always stay and play safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch 

xoxo

Blogging Schedule

I’ve had a few questions about how I blog and what my process is given my strange schedule.

My schedule isn’t all that weird to me, I’ve worked 4 on 4 off for 3 years now so I kind of have it down to an art. The secret, for me at least, is to forget what the calendar says. A week in my world is 4 days. So I work one week, then I’m off the following.

When it comes to blogging, week one is a write off. Due to me working long hours and not being able to get much sleep, I don’t tend to write anything during my working week. What I do tend to do during that time is write notes. Lots and lots of notes; with anything from a basic idea, quotes to outlines for whole posts.

My week off runs differently depending where it follows on the traditional calendar, but that basics are day 1 is for sleeping and catching up around the house, but mainly catching up on sleep. Day two is normally my writing day, I wake up early…mainly because I slept so much day 1, stay in my pjs and just write. I try to write as much as I can that day, anywhere from 2 to 5 pieces depending how my brain is working. Day 3 is for running errands. I’ll also use it to finish things, either housework or blogs, whatever I failed to do when I was meant to do it really. Day 4 is my “me day”, where relaxation is the name of the game. It’s my day to chill out and decompressed. It’s also kind of become my unofficial social media day… but social media is relaxing, right?

As you can imagine, my blog tends to be behind reality due to the way I write. When I use to be good at this and on the ball I was about a month ahead with my writing. At the moment I’m about a week and half. That said, no matter how far in advance I am scheduled, I like to leave gaps for things like holidays and big events so I can sit down and write them closer to the time and really capture the feeling.

Those pre-written post are kind of my safety net in case I get sick or get stuck with writer's block or the most likely of all get roped into stupid amounts of overtime. They mean, I don’t have to let you guys down, and I don’t have to stress about finding time to write.

I hope that answered some your questions, and shined a little light on how I work. But before I go I will leave you with this question; do you like to plan thing in advance or go with the flow, let me know in the comments below and as always, stay and play safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch

xoxo

Happy Thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving everyone, I hope you’re all having a fantastic day with the people you love most.

I’m going to keep this post super short so I can get back to the festivities and by that I mean go watch A Charlie Brown Thanksgiving because…. Its thanksgiving and watching it is pretty much law.

I’m feeling equal parts thankful and homesick today, I’m very grateful for everything I have and all the wonderful people I have in my life. But days like today always make think about home and my family and friends I’m not able to spend the day with. I can’t help but feel a little sad.

That said, I have a lot to be thankful for, a job I don’t hate, friends that care, family that love me, and a hockey that couldn’t buy a win….. Did I mention the hockey season started last week J Go Leafs Go or Blow Leafs Blow as the case may be. 

Anyways, I am going to leave this post at that and return to the holiday fun. But, before I go I have this question for you; what are you thankful for? Let me know in the comments below and as always stay and play safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch 

xoxo

Autumn Tag

It’s been a very long time since I’ve done any sort of tag post, they tend not to be my favourites to either read or write but I saw this one floating about and thought why the hell not. I love autumn and why not get into the seasonal spirit with this post.

1. Favourite Thing About Autumn.

My favourite thing about autumn is seeing the leaves change colour. There is something about going for a walk in the evening when all the leaves have changed, but before they really start to fall, that just makes me happy.

2. Favourite Drink

Apple cider has to be my favourite autumn drink. And because that’s something different here I will explain, it’s an unfiltered, unsweetened non-alcoholic beverage that tastes about a million times better than apple juice.

3. Favourite Candle Scent.

No matter the time of year “soft blanket” is my favorite scent. However, I have recently discovered “Kilimanjaro Stars” and it smells like an autumn night. It’s amazing.

4. Best Lipstick

Autumn is all about a vampy lip. For me, that’s either brown or purple. My favourite brown is NYC Expert Last in “444 chocolate chip” and if I want a little more gloss I’ll top it with Maybelline Colour Elixir in “725 Caramel Infused”. For a purple lip I’ll do Maybelline Colour Drama in “310 Berry Much” and I’ll top that with Urban Decay Apocalypse.

5. Go To Moisturizer

Caudalie Vinosource Moisturizing Sorbet; great on its own or under makeup

6. Go To Eye Colour 

In the autumn I tend to wear more copper colors, in with my normal browns. I like “amaretto” from the Too Faced chocolate bar palette or MAC “Antiqued” is really pretty as well.

7. Favourite Music

I tend to go to Country music this time of years. Luke Bryan is one of my favourites at the moment. That said, I’ve come to associate him with Larry and that’s kind of ruined a whole lot of his music for me.

8. Favourite Outfit

White strap top, a checked shirt and either jeans or a long denim skirt…. You can’t get much more fall then that.

9. Favourite Autumn Treat

Smores is the first thing that comes to mine. It reminds me of the last campfire of the year and brings back such happy memories.

10. Favourite Place To Be

Cooler night’s mean my favourite place to be in is cuddle up with someone special watching a film or a TV. But seeing as I’m single and going to die alone, my favourite place is under my electric blanket snuggled up watching trashy TV.

Anyways, my dears, that is that tag done, I hope you enjoyed it. I am going to go and get a few hours’ sleep, I have a busy day ahead of me. I won’t leave you with a question this blog, but feel free to leave your tag answers in the comment box below. As always my loves, stay and play safe.

Love,
The Honest Bitch
xoxo