“Surviving the Holidays Single”

Over the holidays, I’ve seen hundreds of these “how to” post on surviving the holiday season single.  And I’m not going to knock them; most of the posts I saw were incredibly well written and clearly hit their niche market. For the most part they did their job; they were entertaining, got views and who knows, maybe even helped a person or two.

However, I, being the bitch I am, am here to say the one thing I didn’t see in any of those posts...

If you are having to read one these “how to survive being single” posts, STAY SINGLE!

I don’t mean this to be mean, even though I’m not sure I can say that without sounding that way. I am saying it from a lovely, caring place. If you are having to survive being single, you need to work on you. If you can’t be happy alone, you won’t be happy in a relationship. That advice is as old as the hills for a reason, it’s tried and tested.

If you’ve been here a while, you’ll know even I’ve fallen into that trap and felt my self-worth was tied to whom I was dating. I had to take that advice myself and take a massive step back and pick up the pieces and learn to love me again.

I’ve been single this whole holiday season and for a lot of time before that, and I can honestly say the fact I was single didn’t enter my mind once this holiday season, not even on New Years Eve when I had nobody to kiss at midnight. I was just happy being off work spending the time with my loved ones and also enjoying some much needed me time.

As always these are just my thoughts on the matters, feel free to leave me yours; do you think there is a need for singles survivor guides? Let me know in the comments box below and as always, stay and play safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch 

xoxo

Moving On To 2107

As I sit here and think about everything that has happened over the past 12 months, I can’t help, but be pleased that 2016 is finally over.

My love life has been dull and barely existent. And to be fair the bits that have existed, I really wish hadn’t.

My social life and health has been poor, both clearly linked. Due to back problems and stress I just haven’t been as active and that has had a knock on effect to other parts of my life.

My work life has been stale, unrewarding and stressful. I mean I broke my damn toe because of my frustration at work… that’s not normal.

That said, despite all the negativity 2016 has brought, I can’t help but be somewhat optimistic for 2017.

I’m starting the year back on track with my blog, even though the social media side is still lagging, the actual site is getting regular content. I have a big night out planned for the end of January which should be good for both my social life and my working relationships. I’m starting 2017 with a 2-grand pay raise. So, 2017 isn’t looking hopeless by any means. There’s actually a lot to looking forward to.

I just hope it stays moving in that direction. And on that oddly positive note, I am going to leave you and make an early start on my New Years drinking. But, before I go, I have this question for you; what are you optimistic for in 2017? Let me know in the comment box below and as always, stay and play safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch 

xoxoxo

Unavailable Men

When I sit, and think about my problems when it comes to dating it all boils down to one main issue; unavailable men.

Mr. X is the prime example, he’s married now. No matter what there is or was or what feeling may be there. He is married.

There's a guy at work that keeps hinting he’s unhappy in his relationship and wants to take me out, but the bottom line being he’s in a relationship. There’s no point in entertaining him…. He’s unavailable.

This seems to be a trend lately and it really needs to stop, I am 30 next year, and it’s about fucking time I go at least got one aspect of my life together.  I’m not saying I need to find love, I just want the options the universe presents to be actual options. I don’t think that’s too much to ask really.

Anyways, I’m back at work tonight for my last 4 before Christmas and I think I am going to go and get dressed and put some fuel in my car to save running around tonight. But before I go I have this question for you, what aspect of your life do you wish you could get your shit together in? Let me know in the comment box below and as always, stay and play safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch 

xoxo

Repeating History

Let me start this post by fully acknowledging I’m an idiot who clearly hasn’t learned from the past. Do you remember a post I did in May 2015 called Skulls are Softer than Poles? In that post I explained that I lost my temper at work kicked a post, broke my toe. You know because I’m an adult.

Last week at work after dealing with a menopausal bitch driver and a co-worker who has no understanding of time, I lost my temper. I didn’t kick a pole this time, apparently, I learned something. However, I did kick a large yellow grit container resulting in the same thing… I broke my toe… Once again because clearly, I’m an adult.

Last time I forgot how to be an adult and melted down like Britany Spears 2007. I followed up by quitting my job. I decided no job was worth being so upset over. This time, I’m not sure what my plan is. My stress level was not helped by the fact I was forced into a situation I didn’t want to be in. Things that night were not the norm. That said, I am not happy where I am. 

Anyways, I won’t be making any life decisions tonight and it is time for some more pain killers and to get some sleep, because broken toe or not, I’m back in hell tomorrow. But before I go, I do have this question for you; What do you do to stay calm? Let me know in the comments below and as always stay and play safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch 

xoxo

Work Review

I’m a fairly nocturnal person, hence why night shifts have never bothered me. Yet for some reason on my first shift in my body refused to sleep and I’m awake before the damn birds. Maybe this lack of sleep is why my boss thinks I’m “aggressive”. Personally, I think my aggressiveness is triggered idiots, but I’m sure others won’t see it that way.

My Christmas review is coming up, hence why all this crap is running around my mind. Considering last year, I put my hand through a wall after my review, I’m hoping this one goes slightly better.  

Seeing as I haven’t actually seen my boss since my July review, where he called me “aggressive”, I can’t see this going well. Whatever he bases it on will be second hand rhetoric and that can’t be good for me, since being a “people person” isn’t a skill I excel in these days.

Anyways, wish me luck as I face another week of peak season in transport. But before I go, I have this question for you; what do you do to stay calm and non-aggressive at work? Let me know in the comment box below. And as always stay and play safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch 

xoxo

2016

I can’t believe it’s December already. I was lying in bed, unable to sleep thinking about the end of the year and what I’ve achieved in 2016.

And the answer to the above question is not a fucking lot.

Work wise I’m probably a step backwards. I haven’t been the most people pleasing person this year and that’s not ideal for job progression.  My boss likes kiss asses and that's just not me.

Blog wise; I ended up taking a lot of time off and am not anywhere near where I want to be with it.

Personal life remains pretty unchanged.

My love life is a distant memory and is looking unlikely to change anytime soon.

2016 hasn’t been the most productive year. It’s not been bad by any means, it’s just… been.

Anyways, that’s just what’s floating around my mind in the middle of the night. I think I am going to go and try and get some sleep. But before I go, I have this questions for you; how has 2016 been for you? Let me know in the comment box below and as always, stay and play safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch 

xoxo

12 Wasted, but Wonderful Days

Today is my last day of 12 wonderful, magical days off work and I’m pleased to say I’ve done not a damn thing during that time. Hell, I think I’ve only been out of my pajamas once. And as unproductive as it’s been, it’s felt fantastic.

My real-life job has been so stressful lately, I thought about taking my old job back.  I think my brain and body needed to veg. It needed to reboot and restart. And mindless tasks like online shopping, playing computer games and binge watching House is just what I needed to feel less like I’m one moaning driver away from being arrested for attempted murder.

Despite wasting 12 days, I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat. That said, it is Black Friday and I have some major online shopping to do before I return to the grind tomorrow night. But before I go I have this question for you; what has been your most relaxing holiday? Let me know in the comment box below and as always stay and play safe.

Love,

The Honest Bitch  

xoxo