Wednesday 23 May 2012

Relationship Equality

I’m beginning to think when it comes to the term “relationship equality” men and women have two very different definitions. So different I’m not sure they’re even written in the same language.

When men hear the term relationship equality their brain jumps to physical things like not paying for their date.

When women hear the term relationship equality our brain jumps to emotional/mental things like having an equal say in what happens, where we go, how we get there.

They’re two very different things, and probably the reason why women and men don’t see eye to eye on the topic.

 A lot of men think women mistake equality for chivalry and women think men are idiots.

Take going out for dinner as an example.

Man’s view of equality: The bill comes he pays his half, you pay yours. Or he pays the whole thing and you two go to his afterwards for sex and that balances things out.

Women’s view equality: When making plans where to eat her and her boyfriend talk about where to eat and when together and come to an agreement.

The two sexes really aren’t on the same page.

A farther example of that is men think women see them paying the bill as chivalry. They’re idiots. We see you paying as compensation for the time and money we spent getting ready for the date. Do men think we roll out of bed with a full face of makeup and our hair perfect?

If men think paying half the bill is equality in a relationship, how about we take equal time getting ready for a date too. See how long that lasts before they’re whining about areas needing shaving/waxing and us looking like we just rolled out of bed.

Relationship equality is a strange subject both sides are looking for two very different things out of that statement and neither side is completely wrong or right.

It’s all about give and take and I think on the whole relationships tend to balance out. Women have sex when we really don’t want to; men go to see the latest chick flick they don’t want to. Men want to get drunk and watch sports in peace, we want a nice meal. Everything equals out.

I think the term needs to be replace everything was fine before we started talking about “relationship equality”. It’s give and take and if you’re giving or taking too much it’s called YOU’RE NOT MEANT FOR EACH OTHER!

That’s my opinion let me know yours in the comment box below. As always my dear stay safe.


The Honest Bitch 


  1. Well said! Also women spend way more money on clothes, make-up, beauty/hair products, and etc to look amazing on a date. So paying for the check barely covers that haha

  2. Men should pay for meals unless it is just a male friend. They should be protective and proud. Men should be skilled in the bedroom so that women don't want to avoid it.

    Women? A man should just be fucking glad that someone would put up with them.

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  4. Well said I couldn't agree more. Between the cost of makeup, clothes and us just putting up with them they should always pay.

    And unless they want to be single they should always be good in the bedroom too :-)

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  7. I totally agree.
    There was this one time where I had to go shopping and HAD to get a new dress for a party and it was all planned and then my bf makes this excuse not to go cz i have so many other party tops at home. i had to make a HUGE fuss for him to finally come.

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  9. It's not about money or chores , it's about respect and common goal ! You should change your name to honest bitch with a vagina !

  10. Should someone who refers to herself as a derogatory term really be giving relationship advice? I do understand the lure of being edgy but is this not just negative attention you are receiving? that being said i would like to give you my point of view on equality in a relationship and not this frivolous argument about why you "deserve" to have dinner bought for you. A relationship should not be a transaction they have a name for that it's called prostitution. I understand that it is taxing for you to get ready but for the majority of girls i have gone on dates with getting ready is half the fun for them they get to transform into a desirable person for the evening. The other point i would like to touch on comes from a comment to this vile blog and that is to the woman who absolutely HAD to buy a dress teh truth is unless you only have 7 shirts and seven pants you did NOT have to buy this dress you wanted to buy it there is a difference between the two and learning the difference is part of growing up. So in conclusion would like to state this before you establish the equality in a relationship maybe define the word equality first to avoid sounding like a prissy little girl whining about how you deserve free dinner just for putting on some make up and if you take your relationship advice form a woman who can't even respect herself how are you going to respect who you are?

    1. Very true. This page is not even coming close to equality! It is not equal whatsoever for them to always get a free meal. Women get ready anyway so what is the big deal over going out?

      This is a very stupid, sexist, retarded blog. it is not equal, not even close. If you want to choose where to go, then say something. Don't just expect a free meal for not deciding, say something. Fair is taking turns paying, or splitting the bill. Equality is both people having equal say, so say something.

      You are also so wrong in saying "men believe equality is this". You are an idiot. You expect to classify all men as the same? Grow up and stop posting on the internet because you don't know what your talking about.

    2. You missed the WHOLE point of the blog buddy.

      I'll dumb it down for you...

      "Relationship equality" is a stupid term! Relationships tend to balance out without any additional effort! It's the term and the two sexes view of the term that causes the problems!

      Holy fucking fuckballs

    3. How much to you want to bet that anonymous is one man, replying to his own comments?

    4. Totally with Tara on this one. It has to be the same man, perhaps with a personality disorder so he thinks there is more than one of him :) that would explain a lot about the rest of his rants.

    5. And Mr. Anonymous, just so you know, there is no rule on the Internet that says one has to grow up or know what they are talking about to write on the Internet. You should get familiar with the freedom of speech concept. Of course, you can disagree with what the Honest Bitch said - she disagreed with me about the candle stuff, but you don't have to be a jerk about it. Perhaps you are the one who should grow up.

      As for relationship equality, I think it is a stupid term too. I don't agree with everything in the post, but I don't have too. It is ok to have different opinions. Again it is called FREEDOM OF SPEECH.

    6. I'm with you girls I think it's the same guy too.

      And for the record I don't agree with everything in this post, I was trying to show the two sides like most things in life it's not a black and white subject.

      I do however strongly believe men buying dinner is not chivalry. It's just not.

  11. you are looking at things from a very stereotypical woman's point of view. you're right, men and women probably think differently and consequently will never see eye to eye nor come to a resolution on equality. but not all men think the way that you wrote, and similarly, neither do all women think the way you do. I have met plenty of women who judge relationship equality on material items and money, and men who feel equality is a measure of the intangible. not all men are money-minded, insensitive fools who think only of sex. and not all women are emotionally needy fashionistas who feel they should rightfully be entitled to decisions.

    and like you said, there isn't a right or wrong, and you don't have a right to declare that your way of thinking holds any sway at all over any other. and again, like you said, arguing with someone who has another point of view over this has no end.

  12. So many men on here just don't get it.
    And they wonder why they have bad relationships while Googling a topic and finding this article.

  13. It's no secret that as human beings we thrive on own social relationships. Even if we claim we aren't social at all. People tend to always have friends and family that they talk things out with, even if it's as simple talking about a trip to buy groceries. We function better with support. Our moods improve and our ability for our bodies to handle stress improves as well. So it should go without saying that every relationship we encounter affects us in some way, from relative strangers to close friends and family. Taking the time to improve every relationship will surely improve your mood and create a great sense of well-being. Signs he doesn't want a relationship with you