Sunday, 28 October 2012


Normally in my blogs I try to give advice or words of wisdom so you guys can learn from my many, many mistakes but in this blog I need your advice.

It’s my cousin’s 21st soon and I was planning on sending her some lovely flowers and chocolates for her birthday. But then someone pointed out something that has been bugging me for a while and now I’m not sure I want to bother.

When I lived in Canada we were super close. We saw each other almost every day and when I moved we stayed close until 3 years ago when she had her daughter. Even though we weren’t as close as we use to be I’ve always made a point of sending gifts over for her daughter.

She’s a full time student, lives with her boyfriend at her parents’ house and has a nearly 3 year old daughter so I figure money must be tight so I don’t expect anything back. But what has irked me is she never says thank you.

Last Christmas I spent £120 on her daughter (that’s almost $200) and she didn’t even tell me the present arrived. When I asked her in February about it she said “yeah”, and her daughter loved it but she hated it (It was an annoying Sesame Street Lets Rock Elmo so that’s how it should be.) But she never said thank you.

I know she has a kid but last time I checked they ruin your body not your manners.

I’m not sure what to do now, part of me wants to send something because that’s what you do when it’s someone’s birthday but the other part of me thinks if she can’t bother with 9 key storks why should I bother?

So what you do you think, should I sent something or should I keep my money and time and put it to better use. Let me know in the comment box below.

And as always stay and play safe.


The Honest Bitch 


  1. I would send a card for her birthday, but nothing more. I would also probably still continue sending her child gifts though. Its not the childs fault that her mom lost her manners.

    I absolutely hate when someone isn't appreciative. UGH!

  2. Don't ever send/give a gift because that's what you are "supposed to do." Give with a cheerful heart. However,...when you don't hear anything about it you are left wondering if they even got it. No thank-you is just rude but after so many it is time to give up. You could send a card if you want but other than that? It's a no from me.

  3. I agree with both posters here...card for the adult and perhaps a gift certificate or possibly a savings certificate for the little one that could be applied later to college. If you feel close to her daughter continue giving to the child but as for the adult, a card will suffice or even a call singing her happy birthday. We have so many adults and children in our extended family that we all just send cards or call the adults and concentrate on the children.

  4. I pretty much agree with all of the above, Send a gift of some sort to the child--she is the innocent one here and obviously enjoys what you give her, but don't go overboard financially on it. Just send the mother a card and that should be enough.