I’m not sure if I
told you about Kate, but she a woman from work that is on a mission to find me
a guy. And despite there being some not horrible options around I find myself wanting
the one guy who has “THIS IS GOING TO END BADLY” written all over him.
He kind of reminds me
of The Grinch and we all know how that story ended. That should really be the
only warning sign I need but my brain is apparently immune to logic.
So instead of doing
the logical thing it wants to separate a man, who is emotionally detached, possibly
missing his sense of humour and has said maybe 10 words to me in the 2 weeks I’ve
been there, from his clothing.
And now instead of
sleeping I’m laying here trying to work out what my brain’s motives are. I mean
he’s cute but he isn’t the cutest and he doesn’t tick the makes me laugh box,
he isn’t “datable” .......and literally as I typed that it hit me....“Mr. X syndrome”.
Any girl will tell
you there is something hot about a guy playing hard to get. There is something
about the chase and the progress and then the reward that is just alluring. But
like a lot of people, I have a long history of getting bored with the reward
once I catch it. So by picking an unattainable guy like this new one or
previously Mr. X I can’t get bored because I can’t catch it. It’s like I’m
playing a game that is rigged against myself; and yes I’m aware how fucked up
that is.
I was going to end
this post by saying something about love being blind and lust being logic-less
but it appears that there actually is some logic, it just happens to be twisted
logic.
And before you ask I’m
not actually sure what makes the new guy unattainable; it’s just the vibe I’m
getting. I guess that can be the question of the blog what makes a person unattainable
and have you ever caught the unattainable? Let me know in the comment box
below. And as always stay and play safe.
Love,
Maybe you just want to be there to see the Grinches heart grow 3 sizes:). It seems from what I have learned from my friends, women have a deep and absolute desire to fix men.
ReplyDeleteYou're back! Long time no speak, where have you been hiding Jamie?
DeleteI don't think you're wrong, fixer-upper men are always tempting but normally I don't do go for them. I dated The Grinch because he had power; another one of those hot things that can land you in a whole world of trouble.
Maybe I just have something against easy lol
I don't think the logic is exactly twisted, just mostly misunderstood. From the women I've met, it seems they want a challenge, not a guy to give them something to chase. Unfortunately the challenge most found by women are the guys that aren't such good people. The best relationships I've ever seen that work out are where both people have huge ambitions to complete some goal that doesn't revolve around love life. It creates a challenge for the girl because there's always the challenge of getting his attention to focus on her every once in a while. Its almost like women just simply want to be adored, but they get bored with the guys that don't cause them to work for it every once in a while. Just my two cents.
ReplyDeleteThat's kind of what I meant, "the trill of the chase" was what I was trying getting at in a very poorly worded way (really should sleep before I blog) Those sort of....whatever's are about the challenge of landing the guy.
DeleteAnd I don't think you're wrong most women want to be adored or at least get attention from the opposite sex and that's whether they are available or not I on the other hand lose guys because I want to be left the hell alone....but that's a blog for another day.
I think a lot of it is; women just want what they can't have
I think a lot of it is the feeling that if you don't work for something you don't deserve it. When a guy unequivocally gives you gives love right off the bat you feel like you don't deserve it or you're not worthy. So you look for the challenge so you can earn those feelings
ReplyDeleteI think.....my readers are getting too damn smart :-)
DeleteI do the same thing! However, in my situation it is because I am terrified of being in a relationship, so I go for the ones that deep down I know it won't work out. I also go for the guys that are unavailable, either it being emotionally or in a relationship/married. If it doesn't work out in the end, then it wasn't because they didn't like me but because of their issues or situation.
ReplyDeleteSeriously you guys are getting way too smart.
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